Neuropsychologist \u00c1lvaro Bilbao is committed to educating our children to be self-confident, an ability that will undoubtedly help them to do better in life. And to achieve this noble goal, Alvaro reminds us of three things. First, he states that it is dangerous to tell little lies to our children to get them where we want them to go, because doing so \"activates the insula, which is responsible, for example, for rejecting spoiled food\". With this type of lies, \"that trust is eroded\", so, she concludes, \"my recommendation is that you don't lie to your children\".<\/p>\n\n\n\n
Another thing that \u00c1lvaro tells us is that \u201cwhen we give negative messages, that information is burned into the hippocampus, where we store all the information about ourselves and the world, like if you put your finger in boiling water you will burn down\". If we give them negative messages, such as \u201cyou never try too hard\u201d, \u201cthe brain stores the negative messages and incorporates them into their knowledge about the world and about themselves. And he won't be able to put his finger on the task that's difficult, because he knows he never tries hard enough.\" Negative messages force our son to \"act according to what his brain says is happening in the world\" <\/strong>, so \u00c1lvaro's recommendation is that we give many positive messages and minimize the negatives.<\/p>\n\n\n\n If we want to prepare a child for life, we should be very careful about overprotecting him. And this is how \u00c1lvaro explains it, traveling through the brain again: \u201cWhen a child faces a difficult situation, two important brain structures will be activated: the amygdala (an alarm that indicates dangerous situations) and the prefrontal cortex (which is active when faced with a challenge). Fear and courage coexist. But, \u201cwhen you solve a problem for him,<\/strong> that part that faces the dangers is deactivated and the only part that remains activated is the amygdala. You are teaching your child that he is not capable and that<\/strong> in a dangerous situation he should feel fear because he has not trained the structure of the brain that will allow him to face things successfully\u201d <\/strong>. \u00c1lvaro asks us not to overprotect our children and that \"if they make a mistake, don't worry because they will learn from their mistakes.\"<\/p>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" El neuropsic\u00f3logo \u00c1lvaro Bilbao apuesta por educar a nuestro hijo para que conf\u00ede en s\u00ed mismo, una capacidad que sin duda le ayudar\u00e1 a ir mejor por la vida. <\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":979,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[3],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-160","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-neuropsicologia"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/160","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=160"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/160\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/979"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=160"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=160"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=160"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}