{"id":1542,"date":"2019-02-02T10:08:25","date_gmt":"2019-02-02T15:08:25","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/\/?p=1542"},"modified":"2022-09-27T16:33:31","modified_gmt":"2022-09-27T16:33:31","slug":"la-importancia-de-no-tener-siempre-la-razon","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/la-importancia-de-no-tener-siempre-la-razon\/","title":{"rendered":"The importance of not always being right"},"content":{"rendered":"<p>In the process of raising children we can always find encounters in which discussions are created. In these meetings it is of utmost importance to be careful with words and to discuss in a good way, that is, according to psychology, to always discuss in such a way that everyone involved in a discussion ends up learning something from it.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>For this reason is that the moment of discussion is the moment when children and young people learn the most, since they imitate their parents' ways of discussing and they also have the possibility to adopt new opinions, to know different points of view and to accept them. They learn tolerance, empathy and respect.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>\"Being right in an argument makes our self-esteem is reinforced and that's why we like it so much,\" explains an article in the magazine Refuge of the Soul about the consequences that people who need to be always right can suffer, because these people are usually people with a very high ego lack of empathy.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The consequences that people who always need to be right, as discussed in the Refuge of the Soul magazine article, can suffer are four. From alienation from others to an impediment to learning, these consequences affect the lives of people who always want to have the last word.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Wanting to be always right distances you from others, because since man is a social being and needs to relate to others, he must understand the diversity of people, that everyone has different opinions and respect this, because if a person insists only on being right, the only thing he will get will be to discredit others, hurt them and alienate them, explains the article.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p class=\"translation-block\">Wanting to always be right closes our minds. \"Having an <a href=\"https:\/\/refugiodelalma.com\/cosas-que-solo-hacen-las-personas-con-una-mente-abierta.html\" target=\"_self\">open mind<\/a> is a quality that can bring us closer to success,\" says the article. Moving away from the need to always be right gives us the opportunity to come up with new ideas, investigate new horizons and discover things that no one had thought of. However, if we cling to our ideas and build a wall around them, we will not be able to see beyond them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>All these consequences should be talked about and taught to our children, to teach them that in the world there are thousands of points of view, that there is not only one reality; but we should not only talk to our children, we should think about this and rethink our reality, as adults and as parents. Maybe we are one of those people who do not know how to argue, who always want to be right and we are moving away from our loved ones.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>The third consequence of always wanting to be right is that it kills our mental health. As we mentioned earlier, according to the magazine article, one of the consequences is alienation from loved ones, this alienation will cause loneliness and therefore damage to mental health. A person who wants to be always right will think in a radical way and this we must teach our children, because it is worth starting to understand the opinions of others, and this will also be a way to bet and take care of them.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Finally, always wanting to be right prevents you from learning, \"although they say that curiosity killed the cat, the truth is that the lack of it kills intelligence,\" explains the article. Only curious people feel the need to learn new things, we must encourage our children to be those people who always want to get something good out of a discussion, even if it is with their parents, otherwise we will stop learning and even lose our purest essence.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>A good idea to teach our children and to learn how to have didactic discussions that teach us is the one proposed by the psychologist Edward De Bono, called \"The six hats for thinking\", this consists of designating a hat for each aspect to think about a problem, so at the time of discussing it will be understood from which hat the problem starts and how we could solve it with our children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>White hat: to think as objectively and neutrally as possible.<\/li><\/ul>\n\n\n\n<p>\"Imagine a computer that gives the facts and figures you ask for. Neutral and objective. It does not make interpretations or give opinions. When wearing the white hat, thinking should imitate the computer\" explains Edward de Bono. This is how we can explain it to our children.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<ul class=\"wp-block-list\"><li>Red Hat: to express our feelings, without the need for justification. We can see problems using intuition, inner reaction, and emotion.<\/li><li>Black hat: to be critical in a negative way and think why something could not go right.<\/li><li>Yellow hat: contrary to the black hat, with this one we try to look for the positive aspects of a certain aspect.<\/li><li>Green hat: opens up creative possibilities and is closely related to your idea of lateral or divergent thinking. This is when we can develop creative solutions to a problem.<\/li><li>Blue hat: it is the one that controls the rest of the hats; it controls the times and the order of the hats.<\/li><\/ul>","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>En el proceso de crianza de los hijos podemos encontrar siempre encuentros en los que se crean discusiones. <\/p>","protected":false},"author":1,"featured_media":1543,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[4],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1542","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-disciplina-positiva"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1542","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/1"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1542"}],"version-history":[{"count":0,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1542\/revisions"}],"wp:featuredmedia":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media\/1543"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1542"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1542"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/stellaparentingwithlove.com\/en\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1542"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}